Can EFT Help Couples Who Seem to Argue About Everything?
Are you tired of the endless bickering that takes place within your home? Does it seem like no matter what you do or say, it leads to an argument of some sort? If so, you and your partner may be stuck in a cycle of negative interactions. However, before you tap out or lose hope, you may want to try EFT.
EFT is a therapeutic approach that is helping couples reconnect. Your counselor can help you and your partner address insecurities within the relationship. Then, you'll learn new ways to interact with one another. Ultimately, this can help you improve your connection and heal.
Let's talk about what EFT is and how it may help you and your partner break free from the cycle you're in.
What is EFT?
EFT is also known as emotionally focused therapy and is rising in popularity. Research continues to show high success rates with long-term effectiveness among couples.
EFT was developed specifically around the attachment theory. When the attachment within a relationship is not secure, distress moves in, and contention can take over. As a result, hurt can create distance within the relationship. Over time, this leads to an insecure attachment where patterns of negative interactions form. However, with EFT, both of you can learn how to add love, happiness, and security back into your relationship.
Why Is EFT Sought After?
According to VeryWellMind.com, studies show EFT to be highly effective. Research shows that 70-75% of couples who participate shift from distress to recovery over the course of eight to twenty sessions. Likewise, the article states that nearly 90% of couples report significant improvements. The studies also show the effects are long-lasting. In other words, if you fall into the 90%, you're not likely to revert to your old ways after sessions end. (verywellmind.com)
The intent of EFT is for people to gain clarity into their own emotional responses and of those they have relationships with. Counselors can use this model for both couples and family counseling. In both settings, it can significantly improve connection and emotional attachment.
The idea is that conflicts arise between couples when there is insecurity. This often leads to contention and arguments, regardless of the topic. So, if you find yourself disagreeing over what feels like everything, it could be due to insecurities within your relationship.
Insecurities can lead to questions like, "Am I important to you?" "Can I trust you?" "Do you see me?" Underlying thoughts and fears can lead to emotionally charged responses. As a result, negative cycles of interaction form leading to the constant arguing you may be experiencing right now.
EFT may help both of you address and overcome any doubts and insecurities. Likewise, you can learn how to interact in a loving way. As a result, emotional connection and safety can increase as healing takes place.
If you're ready to restore peace within your relationship, EFT may be right for you. If you are interested in EFT reach out to Endeavour Counseling, by visiting the website to learn more, or call today.
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